This is a really helpful book for learning how to get your emotions under your control. It might look like it’s only for people that are considered to have a bad temper, or that “freak out” a lot, but it can be helpful for everyone. It explains why emotions can get out of control, why that’s bad (including arguments for specific excuses), how to calm down, and how to prevent freak outs in the future. The book has a conversational, humorous tone that makes it fun and easy to read. Even so, it includes a lot of scientifically proven methods, such cognitive behavioral therapy techniques. There are chapters of detailed exercises to complete for different categories, making the book more interactive and more likely to help. There are even details on different therapies and herbal supplements that might help with stress and anxiety. My only complaint about the book is that there are quite a few hyperlinks in the text, usually linking to another book by the author. I wouldn’t mind this occasionally, or even a couple of mentions of other books, but it gets to be a bit much. For example, every time the word “marriage” is used it’s a hyperlink to the author’s book on marriage. There was a paragraph where almost every other word was hyperlinked to its dictionary definition. That’s a bit of a nitpick, but I found it distracting.
As writer of self-help books, the author concentrates on relationship books, and Christian non-fiction books. He started out his career as a paramedic. and follows simplicity in his approach to life and his writing style.
How to find peace, how exactly do we become calmer quickly, effectively.That is what this book aims to teach you how with examples and excercise out of his personal experiences. Test questions like what damage it does to you? Author helps you to see the objective reality and identify misconceptions. Learn about yourself and find practical ways to calm down.
According to the Macmillan online dictionary, “Calm down,” is a phrasal verb, meaning: “To begin to feel more relaxed and less emotional, or to make someone do this. To make someone less angry. To be, or to become calm and stop worrying.”
The author's structured approach to his points of discussion, stands out and his appropriate reference to other author's perspectives, for better focus on the subject, is very helpful.
What makes you anxious, fearful, argumentative, emotional? How to control some of our most unproductive behaviors, including: Panic. Impulsiveness. Shouting. Excessive arguing. Aggressiveness. Disruptiveness. Mean-spirited attacks.
The author touches on PSYCHOLOGICAL EXERCISES, INTENSE PHYSICAL EXERCISES and other lifestyle therapies and HERBAL SUPPLEMENTS to focus on
"..the solution is to focus on you.... focusing on your blessings is a great way to calm your nerves."
Focus on your benefits from life. Being grateful does something good to us. It lifts our spirits and our outlooks above our circumstances and allows us to see outside our tainted perspective lenses. It causes a shift in our attitude to take control.
Under Elements of concern, the author describes the “Gist” of the exercise he suggests, for example: He aims to help you tap into the power of other people as a source of motivation, clarifies negative perspectives you may be carrying about life, causing you to think that it is unobjective or unrealistic to acknowledge things that are positive.
There is a list of distortions, where from you can identify your own unique patterns of thinking, behaving, and feeling. Also, helps you to try and recognize the significance that any of your distortions have on your perspective of reality.
It contains solutions that are possible, but not easy. No miracle-cures are offered here, and nothing in this book should be seen as an alternative to any medications you may be taking. This book is meant for learning how to calm down quickly in normal life situations. You will find a wealth of practical and useful information you will enjoy.
HOW TO CALM DOWN: Quickly. Effectively. Before You Do Or Say Something STUPID. by Caleb Kruse is a self help book that is meant to help people keep from getting upset and then find ways to calm themselves down when they are upset so that they don't cause unnecessary damage to relationships and other connections. Let's face it, getting upset and struggling to calm down is something that everyone struggles with. Little kids have problems with it, parents have issues, everyone at work struggles, everywhere you go someone or you are a problem with it. So, how do you control something that seems to be part of our nature from the time that we are born? Well, you have to come up with strategies to be able to manage it. This book provides many helpful strategies that can be used to control anger and frustration as well as many other feelings that lead to someone freaking out. Overall, I think this is a book that can be used by many people. I am a pretty chilled out guy, but every now and then something or someone will get to me and my temper will flare. This book provides 14 chapters that go into detail on why we are upset, what it means, and how to control it. The read moves along easily because of the humorous tone that is sprinkled throughout. Calming down seems like a topic that shouldn't need a book, but in this world today it is needed more than ever.
I think that everyone knows someone who needs to read this book. I found the book to be an incredibly insightful and interesting read. The book teaches the readers a lot of great skills and offers a lot of practical tools. I really appreciate this in self-help books vs. more theoretical ideas. The strategies, real examples, and lists of benefits were all given with a lot of deep understanding and research. The book has a lot of informative information, proving thoughts on the importance of calming down, and what it can do for your life. The book is well-written, well-organized, and very engaging to read. If you struggle at all with controlling emotions or snapping in conversations, you should definitely give this book a read.
Author Caleb Kruse describes himself as a father, husband, and writer of self-help books, relationship books, and Christian non-fiction books.
In a comfortable, conversational style Caleb addresses those moments we all encounter when our ire is up and we explode (or nearly explode) because we cannot control our anger – those moments when he need to control ourselves and comfortable exit that unwanted state of mind.
Caleb discuses eight points – ‘Why we get worked up – the triggers that make us crazy, What it means to truly calm down (rather than pretending or going through the motions), The reasons why it is so hard for us to actually do it, Myth debunking – tackling common misconceptions, The stuff we normally try (and why it doesn’t work), and The stuff that does work – helpful practical ways to calm down – physically, mentally or with the use of natural supplements.’ He lists the benefits of applying this information as a means to increase happiness, physical and emotional health, make us more attractive, improve IQ, keep marriage, job and finances on an even keel, lessen the chaos, increase efficiency, and minimize regrets.
Each area of discussion that directs toward the path of self-control is well illustrated by practical and usable information – simple truths as Caleb calls it. Yes, much of what he discusses may seem obvious at first, but apply it to personal perceptions and the vigor of his counsel becomes apparent. This is a handy tool for finding that plane of peace and calm. Grady Harp, June 19
A Guide on how to CALM DOWN ISBN: 9781951028107 Absolute Author Publishing copyright and written by C. J. Kruse. The book’s title also admonishes one to do “Quickly Effectively before you do or say something stupid.” The format is a presentation of 14 individual chapters and a conclusion that take the reader from an explanation and discussion of “what it means to be worked up” through various causes leading up to the condition followed by proposal of numerous mental and physical activities to rectify the situation. Much emphasis is placed on introspection and self-analysis in evaluating the factors most effective for your individual case and decisions which must be made with respect to how best to employ them for their greatest effect. Discussion: The author states that he is “a father, husband, musician and writer of self-help books, and Christian non-fiction books”. His style is laid back and unaffected, occasionally humorous, thus a manner of presentation that can be quite effective, especially with his re-emphasis on certain features. Additionally, individual helpful lists are provided. In summary, this is a self-help book that should appeal to a sizeable group of readers.
I have read several self-help books and “How to Calm Down” is definitely well worth your time. I like how the author, Caleb Kruse, outlines what you will find in the book, and then he keeps to that outline. Maybe that shouldn’t be something to be impressed about, but oddly not all authors do, so I appreciate it when I see it. Having a book so well mapped out allows me to go back and quickly reference what I’m looking for and also allows me to skip around if I want. The sections are short and succinctly written, making this a very quick read. As with all self-help books, there’s advice that will work with your personality and other things that you may be more inclined to avoid. I feel that Kruse lays out enough solutions that anyone can find some benefit from this book. "How to Calm Down" is the kind of book that is good to keep on hand so you can refresh your memory. I think most people need to recalibrate their moods and thoughts from time to time since it’s easy to get bogged down by life. This book makes it easy to regain your center and get your mind back on track.
Early in this book author Caleb Kruse breaks one of the cardinal rules laid down by publishing industry expert Jane Friedman. He states that it is a book written, not by an expert or an authority, but just by a normal, ordinary person. But he explains that he wrote it out of a sense of frustration and from a difficult time in his life when he had a real need to ‘calm down.’ Like any good author/reader, he began searching for good books about how to reduce the feeling that the best way to cope with any situation is to fly off the handle. After presenting several different kinds of situations guaranteed to make anyone want to rant and scream (including being told to ‘calm down’), he gives a series of ideas and exercises that if sincerely applied can help anyone calm down, get a handle on their feelings and make a proactive difference in their own lives. He draws on the experience of being a husband, father, musician and ‘normal person’ who has to live in the world to write a very useful book.
“How To Calm Down” is a self-help book focusing on helping the reader find ways to reduce anger and anxiety, and to stay calm.
I have to admit that, all too often, I struggle with staying calm. I lose my temper too easily and I get impatient too quickly. I also notice that there are seemingly more and more impatient people around. Blame it on the fast-paced and high levels of stress at work and at home? Regardless, if our entire community can simmer down and be more patient and gracious with one another, it would definitely be a more peaceful world to live in.
This book is very well-structured and provides highly actionable advice to help the reader find suitable ways to calm down. The real-life stories and practical examples given in the book are very relatable and also very encouraging.
This is definitely a useful book for anyone who wants to be calmer and deal with people and their surrounding environment in a more peaceful manner.
HOW TO CALM DOWN: Quickly. Effectively. Before You Do Or Say Something STUPID. by Caleb Kruse it is a self-help book that is especially focused on what happens if you do not get calm, which means what are the consequences you might have to face if you don’t control yourself and calm down, at the same time it has a focus on all the great things that will happen if you do calm down, in contrast with those analyzed before. Then the author gives some exercises and possible solutions to avoid our feelings taking the lead over our head, and they are not easy to accomplish but are realistic and with a little effort in our part we can get to do them, so we will be able to be calm and obtain all the benefits of being calm. The book is easy to read, easy to understand, not so easy to follow the advice, but for sure very good to improve our personal relationships at all levels.