Top critical review
More aggressive and lacks the charm of his first book
May 14, 2019
Like his first book, Unfuck Yourself, this book is a no-nonsense indictment towards self-reflection. It asks the reader to name and examine their fundamental conclusions about their self, others, and life, arguing that these fundamental conclusions, which are developed early in life, are necessarily negative and are the reasons we self-sabotage. I take issue with his insistence that these conclusions are necessarily negative and that they are impossible to change via meditation, etc. He argues that the solution to self-sabotage is essentially to notice, accept, and move beyond these conclusions, by cultivating a compelling vision for our future (rather than being driven by the ghosts of our past). Overall, I found the introspection somewhat useful, and his approach to uncovering our conclusions attractive in its simplicity. However, the “solution” or rather “transcendence” portion of the book seemed hastily written and not given proper thought. It lacks the ability to inspire the reader and instead, like much of the book, comes across almost like scolding. The tone of the book struck me as overly provocative, in a way that is supposed to shatter the reader’s current perspective on life, but instead makes one question the absolute certainty with which the author draws his conclusions. The author offers little recourse to restoring the confidence he seems so eager to steal away. Basically, the book reminds me of a Zen master striking his student with a stick, but providing no real, substantial instruction as to how to improve above and beyond “do better.” I very much enjoyed his first book and was rather disappointed by this one.